If a guy recently called you dear then you’re probably wondering why and what he meant by it.

This post will help you understand why he called you dear and help you understand why other guys might call you dear in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy calls you dear? It might mean that he is attracted to you if he only says it to you and if he also shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also say it naturally, it could be a sign that he is comfortable around you, that he wants more than just a friendship or that he is being condescending.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy will call you dear it is important to consider the body language that he showed and the context of how he said it.

Reasons why a guy will call you dear

Each of the different reasons why a guy will call you dear will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will call you dear and the body language signals that you can expect to see with them.

He’s attracted to you

If he only calls you dear and he changes his body language around you in a positive way then it would be likely that he calls you dear because he is attracted to you.

If he does call you dear because he likes you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his body language.

These signs can include:

  • Mirroring your body language
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Pointing his feet at you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Becoming agitated when you’re talking to other men your age
  • Becoming defensive when other men are with you both
  • Finding excuses to touch you
  • His pupils dilate when he is around you
  • Sitting up straight when he sees you
  • Uncrossing his arms and legs when he sees you
  • Positioning himself to be near you
  • Adjusting his hair or clothing when he sees you

He’s comfortable with you

It could be the case that he calls his woman friends dear.

If this is the case then it would be likely that he calls his other female friends dear and not just you.

It would also be likely that he would show the same body language and behavior around them as he does with you.

He naturally says it

It might also be the case that he naturally calls all women dear when he is talking to them.

If that is the case then it would be likely that you would notice that he says it to other women as well.

It would also be likely that he would show neutral body language around you unless he says it to you for a different reason.

He wants more than just a friendship

If he is your friend and he only calls you dear then it could be a sign that he wants to have more than just a friendship with you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction when he is with you and you might not have noticed them.

If he calls you dear because he likes you then it would be especially likely that he would become agitated when you’re talking to other men, that he would become defensive when other men are around and that he would make plans based on yours.

He wants to see how you react

It might also be the case that he is attracted to you and he called you dear because he wanted to see how you would react to it since he wants to know if you are attracted to him.

If that is why he called you dear then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction to you in his body language when he is around you.

He’s being condescending

It could also be the case that he said it in a condescending way.

This would be more likely if he said it when you made a suggestion, when he was disagreeing with you or if he said it with a sarcastic tone.

If he was being condescending then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in other ways such as:

  • Smirking at you
  • Crossing his arms when you’re talking
  • Looking down at you
  • Not taking what you have to say seriously

Consider your relationship with him

The type of relationship that you have with him will likely have an impact on the possible reasons that he called you dear.

If he is your friend then it would be more likely that he either feels comfortable around you or because he wants to be more than just friends with you. It would help to consider if he shows signs of attraction when he is around you to get a better understanding of how he feels about you.

If it was a guy that you don’t know very well then it would be more likely that he either calls women dear normally, that he was being condescending or that he wanted to see how you would react.

Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you

It would likely be a useful thing to think about the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he reacts to seeing you by uncrossing his arms, making space for you, his pupils dilate, raising his eyebrows and smiling, sitting upright, pointing his feet at you and holding eye contact with you then it would be more likely that he calls you dear because he’s attracted to you.

Whereas, if he crosses his legs, points his feet away from you, avoids eye contact and tightens his lips then it would be more likely that he said it in a condescending way.

Consider how he interacts with other people

It would also be helpful to think about the way that he interacts with other people when trying to understand why he called you dear.

If you notice that he calls other women dear and that he doesn’t change his behavior or body language when he is around you then it would be more likely that he naturally calls women dear.

Whereas, if he only calls you dear and he changes his body language when he is around you then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.

Consider when and where he called you dear

The timing and the location of when he called you dear would also be a useful thing to consider.

If he said it when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that he said it because he is attracted to you.

Whereas, if he said it when you were both with other people then it would be more likely that he was being condescending. However, he might say it naturally or because he is attracted to you so it would be necessary to consider the context of how he said it.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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