If there is a guy that barely talks to you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why he might barely talk to you and why other guys might do the same in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy barely talks to you? It could be that he is not interested in you or he is annoyed with you if he shows distancing body language around you. It could also be that he thinks that you do not like him, he likes you but he is nervous or he might do it naturally with everyone.

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There are actually a number of reasons why he might not talk to you much and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to figure out the exact reason that he is doing it.

Why a guy might barely talk to you

Each of the different reasons why he might be avoiding talking to you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and the body language that he shows around you.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why he might be doing it, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

He thinks you don’t like him or you are annoyed with him

The reason that he doesn’t talk to you could be that he thinks that you don’t like him or that you are annoyed with him.

This would be more likely if he used to talk to you but he stopped suddenly after something happened such as you had an argument. It would also be more likely if he did talk to you more, in the past, but he suddenly stopped.

If he does think that you don’t like him or that you are annoyed with him then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction, when he is around you, such as:

  • Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
  • Standing closer to you than he does with other people
  • Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people’s pupils will often become more dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)

There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.

He is not interested in you

It could be the case that he hasn’t been talking to you because he is not interested in you and he doesn’t want to give you the impression that he is.

This would be more likely if he started doing it after you showed interest in him yourself, if he only seems to do it to you and he does talk to other people and if he shows different body language around you compared to when he is with other people.

If he does avoid talking to you because he is not interested in you then it would be more likely that he would also show distancing body language such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Standing further away from you, when talking to you, than he does with other people
  • Smiling at you with a closed mouth and not smiling beside the eyes
  • Positioning himself not to be close to you

He is annoyed with you

It might be the case that he has been barely talking to you because he is annoyed or upset with you.

This would be more likely if he started doing it after something happened that might have upset or annoyed him.

If he is annoyed with you then he might show signs of it by doing things such as:

  • Facing away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Distancing himself
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Tightening his lips
  • Furrowing his eyebrows

He is nervous

It might be the case that he is attracted to you but he barely talks to you because he is nervous that you won’t like him back or that he will say something that you don’t like.

If this is why he does it then it would be more likely that he would only do it with you and that he would show signs of attraction around you that he doesn’t with other people.

It would also be more likely that he would show signs of being nervous, when he is around you, by doing things such as:

  • Struggling to maintain eye contact
  • Talking at a higher pitch, with you, than he does with other people
  • Rubbing the face, arms, neck or legs a lot
  • Getting a dry mouth
  • Fidgeting a lot
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say

He does it naturally

It could also be the case that he is naturally quiet.

This would be more likely if he has always been quiet around you, if he is also quiet around other people and if he shows similar body language around other people as he does with you.

If he does barely talk to people naturally then it might still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be more likely that he would show signs of attraction around you that he doesn’t with other people.

Consider when and where he barely talks to you

It would help to consider the timing of when he barely talks to you.

If he only seems to do it when you are around certain people then it could be the case that he feels uncomfortable around them, he doesn’t want them to see him with you or it might be that he actually has a girlfriend.

Whereas, if he always seems to barely talk to you then it would make it more likely that he either does it naturally, thinks you don’t like him, doesn’t have feelings for you or that he is nervous. It would help to consider how he interacts with other people, when he started to do it and the body language that he shows.

Consider how he reacts upon seeing you

When trying to understand why he barely talks to you and how he feels about you it would help to consider the way that he reacts upon seeing you.

If you notice that he changes his body language and behavior, noticeably, when he sees you, then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good or bad feelings about you depending on the way that he changes it.

If he reacts upon seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Adjusting his posture
  • Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
  • Moving closer to you
  • Having more dilated pupils

Then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you but, perhaps, that he gets nervous around you.

Whereas, if he reacts by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Facing away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Tightening his lips
  • Distancing himself
  • Avoiding eye contact

Then it would make it more likely that he is either annoyed with you or he is not interested in you.

Consider how he interacts with other people

People will, sometimes, show certain body language signs naturally. This is why it would help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.

If he shows the same body language around you as he does around other people and he doesn’t talk to them a lot then it would make it more likely that he does it naturally. If he does, normally, talk to you and to others more then it would make it more likely that he hasn’t been, recently, because something has annoyed or upset him.

Whereas, if he only seems to be barely talking to you and he shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that he has good or bad feelings about you. It would help to consider the body language that he shows, when he started and the way that he reacts upon seeing you.

Look for a number of body language clues

When trying to understand what someone’s body language might be showing it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.

The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have many different meanings. This means that single body language signs can be unreliable on their own.

Whereas, if someone shows multiple body language signs, that all seem to suggest the same thing, then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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