If you have recently noticed that a certain guy avoids talking to you then you’re probably wondering why he does it.

This post will help you figure out why he avoids talking to you and figure out what it means as it happens in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy avoids talking to you? It might be that he is attracted to you but too nervous to talk to you especially if he shows other signs of attraction around you. It could also be that he thinks you don’t like him, he has some social-anxiety, he is doing it on purpose or that he is annoyed with you.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy will avoid talking to you it is important to consider the context of how it happens and the body language signals that he shows around you.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding as to why he avoids talking to you.

Reasons why a guy will avoid talking to you

Each of the different reasons why a guy will avoid talking to you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will avoid talking to you and the body language signals that you should look for.

He has a crush on you

One reason that a guy will avoid talking to you is that he has a crush on you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that it is only you that he seems to do it with and that he changes his body language and behavior as soon as he notices you.

The reason that avoiding talking to you can be a sign of having a crush on you is that it signals that he gets anxious around you because of it. It can also suggest that he doesn’t want you to know about it.

If he does have a crush on you then it would be likely that he would show it in other ways by doing things such as:

  • Standing in your general area when you’re in a group together
  • Staring at you then quickly looking away if your notice
  • Making adjustments to his clothing or hair as soon as he notices you
  • Aiming his feet at you even if you’re not in front of him
  • Showing signs of anxiousness when you’re with other men
  • Showing signs of being nervous when around you (mentioned below)
  • Having more dilated pupils than usual when you are around
  • Looking to see if you’re also laughing when he does
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Sitting or standing upright when he notices you
  • Asking your friends about you

He doesn’t think you like him

The reason that he avoids talking to you might be because he thinks that you don’t actually like him.

If that is why he does it then it would be likely that he did initially talk to you then he suddenly stopped. It could be the case that he thought you came across as being unhappy when he was introduced to you.

If he doesn’t think that you like him then it would be likely that he would show distancing behaviors when he is around you. This means he would likely position himself to be far away from you, point his feet away from you, avoid looking at you and that he would possibly glance towards the exit a lot.

He gets nervous around you

The reason that he avoids talking to you might be because he gets nervous around you.

There are many reasons that he might get nervous around you but one might actually be because he is attracted to you. If that is why he gets nervous around you then it would be likely that he would show a number of the signs of attraction to you mentioned above.

Alternatively, the reason that he gets nervous around you might be because he thinks that you are judgemental, that you will react to what he has to say or because you were dramatic around him in some way in the past.

It could also be the case that it isn’t actually you that he gets nervous around. He might have some social anxiety or he might not like one of your friends. If that is the case then you should expect to see him getting nervous around other people as well.

If he does avoid talking to you because he gets nervous around you it would be likely that he would show other signs of being nervous.

These signs can include:

  • Rubbing the face, arms, neck or legs often
  • Rubbing the eyes often
  • Blinking more frequently
  • Coughing
  • Stuttering
  • Quivering around the eyes or lips
  • Fidgeting
  • Slouching
  • Self-hugging
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Touching the neck
  • Scratching the neck

He’s annoyed with you

The reason that he has been avoiding talking to you could be that he is annoyed with you about something.

If he is avoiding talking to you because he is annoyed with you then it would be likely that something would recently have happened that would cause him to be that way. It could be that you recently had an argument, you did something that he didn’t like or he might think that you did something that he didn’t like.

If he is annoyed with you then he would probably show other signs of it in his body language by doing things such as:

  • Crossing the arms and legs as soon as he first sees you
  • Standing far away from you
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Squinting when looking at you
  • Having tight lips when you’re talking
  • Tightening the eyebrows when looking at you
  • Giving you one-word answers
  • Tensing the jaw when looking at you
  • Pointing the feet away from you
  • Glancing towards the exit

He’s submitting

The reason that he avoids talking to you might be because you make him get submissive.

The cause could be that you come across to him as aggressive, he thinks that you’re in a position of authority over him or that you hang out with people that he feels threatened by.

If he does avoid talking to you for this reason then it would be likely that he would show other submissive signals in his body language which can include things such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Laughing with the mouth
  • Avoiding large movements
  • Showing lots of rubbing behaviors
  • Having more open looking eyes when looking at you
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Showing the palms or neck

He does it on purpose

Sometimes a guy will avoid talking to you on purpose because he thinks that it will cause you to think about him and lead to you being more attracted to him.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would still show signs of being attracted to you in his body language.

If he is trying to hide it then you should still expect that he will get anxious when you’re with other men, glance at you when you’re not looking, stand in your general area, hold slightly longer eye contact with you, face his feet at you and that he would have more dilated pupils when he’s with you.

He doesn’t actually like you

The reason that he avoids talking to you might actually be that he doesn’t like you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that something would have happened that would cause him to feel that way. However, it might also be that he doesn’t like the people that you hang out with.

If this is the case then you should expect to see similar signs as if he was annoyed with you. However, you might also find that he shows some more aggressive signs such as gritting the teeth around you, clenching the fists, showing veins and tensing the muscles.

He has a crush on you but he’s not interested

The reason that he avoids talking to you might be because he is actually not interested in getting to know you despite being attracted to you.

If that is why he does it then it could be that he has a girlfriend or that he doesn’t want one at the moment.

In this case, it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you. However, he would be less responsive to any signs that you show to him.

He doesn’t think that you’re friends

The reason that he doesn’t talk to you might be because he doesn’t think that the two of you are friends.

Despite that, it might not necessarily be the case that he thinks that you don’t like him. Instead, he might just think that you don’t know each other well enough yet.

This would be more likely if he hasn’t been introduced to you yet and if you don’t talk to him much yourself.

If it is why he avoids talking to you then it would be likely that he would start to talk to you more once you get to know each other better.

There is something that he doesn’t want to tell you

If he has been talking to you before but he has suddenly stopped talking to you or he avoids talking about certain things then it could be the case that he has something to hide.

If that is why he has been avoiding talking to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of nervousness around you and that he would show distancing behaviors.

Think about your relationship with him

When trying to figure out why he has been avoiding talking to you it would be helpful to consider what your relationship with him is like.

If he is more of an acquaintance to you then it would be more likely that he avoids talking to you due to being attracted to you and nervous, thinking that you don’t like him, thinking that you don’t know each other well enough or that he doesn’t like the people you hang out with. It would be necessary to consider what his body language is like around you and if how he interacts with your other friends.

If you have been friends with him for a while and he has suddenly started to avoid talking to you then it could be the case that he has gotten a girlfriend and he’s avoiding talking to you because of her. However, it could also be that he is annoyed with you, he thinks you’re annoyed with him or that he doesn’t want to tell you about something. Again, it would be necessary to consider his body language around you to figure out why and what happened around the time that he stopped talking to you.

If you have been dating him or he is your boyfriend then it could be that he’s annoyed with you, he thinks you’re annoyed with him or that he is hiding something from you. It would be necessary to consider what happened around the time that he stopped talking to you and his body language to figure out exactly why.

Think about when it started

It would be helpful to think about what happened at around the time he started to avoid talking to you when figuring out why he does it.

If you had an argument or you did something that he might not like at that time then it would be more likely that he’s annoyed with you.

If he did it from the start then it could be that he has some social-anxiety, you came across as being overly aggressive or that you didn’t like him, he might be attracted to you or he might not like the people that you hang out with.

Think about where it happens

It might be the case that it isn’t actually you that he is avoiding. Rather, it might be that he is doing it due to other people.

If you notice that he avoids talking to you when certain people are present then it could be the case that he gets nervous when they are around.

Alternatively, he might not actually want to be seen with you. Perhaps because his friends don’t like you or because he has a girlfriend.

Does he talk to others?

If you notice that he tends to be quiet around other people then it would make it more likely that he has a quiet personality.

Whereas, if he talks to other people, while you are present, then it would make it more likely that it is specifically you that he is avoiding talking to. The reason could be any of the reasons discussed above.

Look for clusters of body language

When trying to figure out why he has been avoiding talking to you it would be helpful to look for multiple body language signals that can have the same meaning.

The reason for that is that single body language signals can have multiple different meanings making them unreliable to draw conclusions from.

However, if a person shows multiple body language signals pointing towards the same cause then it would be much more likely that they are actually showing those signals for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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