If a guy recently asked what you look for in a guy then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why he might have asked what you look for in a guy and why other guys might do the same in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy asks what you look for in a guy? It could be a sign that he is attracted to you especially if he only asks you and he shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also be asking because a friend of his likes you, he is just making conversation or he is feeling self-conscious.
There are actually a number of reasons why a guy might ask what you look for in a guy and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to understand the exact reason.
Why a guy will ask what you look for in a guy
Each of the different reasons why a guy will ask what you look for in a guy will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he asks and the body language that he shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will ask what you look for in a guy, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
He is attracted to you
The reason that he asked what you look for in a guy could be that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he has asked you similar questions, he only asked you, he asked when he was alone with you and if he shows different body language around you compared to when he is with his other friends.
If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show some signs of being attracted to you, when he is around you, in his body language.
These signs could include:
- Mirroring your body language
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Asking you the most questions when you’re in a group together
- Standing closer to you than he normally stands to other people
- Positioning himself to be near you
- Asking your friends about you
- Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
- Becoming anxious when you’re talking to other men
- Sticking around while you are with other men
- Basing his schedule around your schedule
- Getting defensive when you are both with other men
- Watching you when you are with other men
- Staring at you then quickly looking away or smiling when you notice
- His pupils dilate when he is with you
- Sitting more upright when he notices you
- Uncrossing his arms when he notices you
- Adjusting his hair or clothing when he notices you
- Pointing his feet at you (people will often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.
One of his friends are attracted to you
The reason that he asked might be that one of his friends are attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he also asked what you think of his friend, if he doesn’t show many signs of attraction around you and if his friend does seem to show a lot of signs of attraction around you.
He was just making conversation
The reason that he asked you what you look for in a guy might just be that he was curious and he didn’t really ask it due to having any other motives.
If that is the case then he might have asked when there was a quiet moment in the conversation and he would likely have shown normal body language and behavior around you.
He was feeling self-conscious
The reason that he asked could be that he was feeling self-conscious and he was hoping that you would make him feel better by describing him.
If that was the case then it would be likely that he would have asked you after something happened that would make him feel that way. It could be that someone insulted him, he got rejected in some way or he might have
If that is why he asked what you look for in a guy then it would be likely that he would have shown some signs of being self-conscious.
These signs could have included:
- Rubbing his arms, face, neck or legs
- Talking at a higher pitch
- Looking down
- Watery eyes
- Inhaling through the nose quickly
- Taking deeper breaths
- Being quieter than he usually is
Consider the way that he reacts upon seeing you
When trying to understand why he asked what you look for in a guy it would help to consider the way that he reacts upon seeing you.
If he changes his body language and behavior, in an apparent way, when he notices you then it would make it more likely that he has particularly strong feelings for you.
This means that if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
- Moving closer to you
- Having more dilated pupils
Then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.
Consider how he interacts with his other friends
It would also likely help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with his other friends.
If he seems to show the same body language with you as he does with his other friends and he also asks them similar questions then it would be more likely that he considers you a friend.
Whereas, if he only seems to ask you and he shows different body language around you then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.
Consider when and where he asked
The timing and location of when he asked you would also be a useful thing to consider.
If he asked you when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that he asked because he is attracted to you. However, it could also have been that he was asking for a friend so it would help to consider what his body language looked like when he was around you.
Whereas, if he asked in front of other people, then it would be more likely that he was being conversational.
Look for a number of body language signs
When considering what his body language could be showing it would help to look for a number of signs at the same time.
The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have multiple possible meanings. This can cause single body language signs to be less reliable on their own.
Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signs and they all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that he is showing them for that specific reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.