If a guy recently asked you for a hug you might be wondering why.
This post will help you to figure out why a guy would ask you for a hug and help you to figure out its meaning as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy asks for a hug? Possible causes of a guy asking for a hug are that he is attracted to you, feeling sad, thinks that you’re sad or it might be normal in his culture to hug people often.
Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might ask you for a hug it would help to consider the context of how he asks and the body language that he shows.
By doing that you will be able to get a better understanding of why a guy would ask you for a hug.
Reasons why a guy will ask you for a hug
Each of the different reasons why a guy will ask for a hug will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will ask for a hug and the body language signals to expect to see with them.
He has a crush on you
If a guy only seems to ask you for a hug and he seems to change his body language when he is around you then it would make it likely that he has a crush on you.
If he does then it would be likely that he would show other signs that he has a crush on you in his body language.
These signs can include:
- Having dilated pupils when talking to you
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Adjusting his hair or clothing when he first notices you
- Standing close to you when talking to you
- Touching you more than other people in the group
- Asking you more questions that other people in the group
- Pointing his feet at you even if he is stood or sat to your side
- Looking at your lips
- Getting anxious when you’re talking to other men
- Positioning himself to be near you when in a group
- Often looking at you then quickly looking away when you notice
- Asking your friends about you
- Looking at your lips when talking to you
He considers you a friend
The reason that he might ask you for a hug is that he considers you a friend and he normally hugs his woman friends when he is parting with them.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show positive body language signals towards you. It would also be the case that you’re not the only one that he hugs goodbye. It would also be likely that he wouldn’t show a number of the signals of attraction mentioned above such as getting anxious when you’re with other men.
He wants to be more than just friends
It could be the case that he has been your friend for a while and the reason that he asks for a hug is that he secretly has a crush on you and he wants to be more than just friends with you.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show that he is attracted to you in his body language and behavior when he is around you. However, you might not have picked up on many of the signs that he has been showing you.
It would be especially likely that he would show signs of nervousness when around you since he hasn’t actually asked you out yet, that he would get anxious when you’re with other men and that he would make plans based on times that he knows you’ll be free.
He’s from a culture where it’s normal to hug
It might be the case that he is from a background where it’s normal for them to hug.
If you notice that his friends tend to hug people goodbye then it would likely be the case that he is mirroring them. This is because a guy will imitate the behaviors and body language shown by the group of people that he wants to fit in with since from an evolutionary perspective it will help him to get accepted by the group.
Even if he is from a culture where it is normal for them to hug people he still might hug you for different reasons. It would be necessary for you to consider the other body language signals that he shows when he is with you to figure out if that is the case.
The reason that he might have wanted to hug you could be because he was sad.
If that is the reason that he did it then it would be likely that he was talking to you about something that made him sad, something recently happened that would make him sad and that he was showing signs of being sad in his body language.
It would also be likely that he only hugged you then and that he wouldn’t ask for a hug at other times.
He thinks you’re sad
On the flip side, he might have asked for a hug because he thought that you were sad.
Again, if this was the reason, then it would be likely that you were telling him about something that would make you sad, you were showing it in your body language and that something had recently caused you to be sad.
It would also be likely that he would only have done it then and not at other times.
Consider the way that he hugs you
When trying to figure out why he wanted to hug you it would be helpful to think about the way that he did it.
If he reached over and hugged your lower back and rubbed it then it would be more likely that he was doing it due to either being attracted to you or trying to reassure you. It would likely be easier for you to differentiate between the two based on the context.
If he only did it lightly with one arm around your shoulder area then it would be more likely that he was just doing it because he thinks it’s a normal way to say goodbye.
Think about the timing and location
The timing and the location of when he hugged you would also likely be a helpful thing to think about when trying to figure out why he did it.
If he hugged you while you were alone together and it wasn’t when you were both parting then it would make it more likely that he did it due to being attracted to you unless you were sad at the time.
Whereas, if he did it when you were both parting it would be more likely that he was just doing it to say “goodbye.” That is unless he hugged the lower part of your back and he shows multiple signs of being attracted to you when he is around you.
Consider your relationship with him
The type of relationship that you have with him will also likely help you a lot in determining why he hugs you.
If you have been dating him for a while then it would make it a lot more likely that he hugs you for attraction reasons.
If he has been your friend for a while then it could be because he secretly is attracted to you. It would be helpful for you to consider if he also hugs your other friends and if he shows signs of attraction when around you.
Think about how he interacts with other people
When trying to figure out why he hugs you it would be especially helpful to consider the way that he interacts with others and how it’s different to the way that he interacts with you.
If he doesn’t normally hug other women and he tends to change his body language when he notices you then it would make it more likely that he hugs you due to being attracted to you. That is assuming that he changes his body language in a way that shows attraction such as if he sits more upright, adjusts his hair or clothing or if he points his feet at you.
However, if you notice that he does tend to hug other women and he doesn’t really change his body language much when you’re around then it would be more likely that he does it because it’s a normal way for him to say goodbye.
Consider multiple body language signals
When you’re looking at the type of body language signals that he’s showing you, when trying to figure out why he tends to hug you, it would be helpful to look for clusters of body language that all signal the same thing.
This is because single body language signals can have multiple different meanings as seen with when a guy hugs you. This means that it would often be unreliable to make a conclusion based on a single body language signal.
However, if he shows multiple body language signals of attraction when he hugs you then it would make it much more likely that it is why he does it. Alternatively, if he shows multiple signs of being sad then it would be more likely that he wanted to hug you because of being sad.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.