If a guy recently asked about you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why he might be asked about you and why other guys might do the same in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy asks about you? It could be a sign that he is interested in you especially if the way that he asked was by asking friends about you and he shows other signs of attraction when he is around you. He could also consider you a friend, he might have thought you were sad or he might have just been making conversation.
There are actually a number of reasons why a guy might ask about you and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to understand the exact reason.
Why a guy will ask about you
Each of the different reasons why a guy will ask about you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he asks and the body language that he shows around you.
In the following sections, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will ask about you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
He is attracted to you
The reason that he asked about you could have been that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely if the way that he asked was by asking your friends about you especially if he asked if you will be joining them in an activity or where you were. It would also be more likely if he seems to interact with his friends in a different way to how he interacts with you.
If he did ask about you because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction when he is around you.
These signs could include:
- Mirroring your body language
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Asking you the most questions when you’re in a group together
- Standing closer to you than he normally stands to other people
- Positioning himself to be near you
- Asking your friends about you
- Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
- Becoming anxious when you’re talking to other men
- Sticking around while you are with other men
- Basing his schedule around your schedule
- Getting defensive when you are both with other men
- Watching you when you are with other men
- Staring at you then quickly looking away or smiling when you notice
- His pupils dilate when he is with you
- Sitting more upright when he notices you
- Uncrossing his arms when he notices you
- Adjusting his hair or clothing when he notices you
- Pointing his feet at you (people will often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
- Hugging you the more and for longer than he does with his other friends
There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.
He considers you a friend
The reason that he asked might be that he considers you as a friend.
This would be more likely if he also asks about his other friends in a similar way and if he seems to interact with and show similar body language signs around his other friends.
He thought that you were sad
The reason that he asked about you could have been that he thought that you were feeling sad at the time.
This would be more likely if he asked after something had just happened to upset you, if you were showing signs of being sad or if you were talking to him about something that made you feel sad.
He was just making conversation
It could be the case that he was just making conversation when he asked about you.
This would be more likely if he asked during a lull in the conversation and if he was not showing many signs of attraction when he asked.
If you do think that he asked to make conversation then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction, when around you, that you might not have picked up on.
Consider how he reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand why he asked about you and how he feels about you it would help to consider the way that he reacts upon seeing you.
If you notice that he changes his body language, in an apparent way, then it would be more likely that he has feelings for you depending on how he changes it.
If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
- Moving closer to you
- Having more dilated pupils
Then it would make it more likely that he asked about you because he is attracted to you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
Comparing the way that he interacts with his other friends with how he interacts with you could also help.
If he shows the same body language and behavior with his other friends as he does with you then it would make it more likely that he asked about you as a friend.
Whereas, if you notice that he shows different body language and behavior with you then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.
Look for a number of body language signs
When considering what his body language could be showing it would help to consider multiple aspects of his body language at the same time.
This is because people can show single body language signs for a number of different reasons. This can cause single body language signs to be less reliable on their own.
Whereas, if someone shows a number of body language signs, that all suggest the same meaning, then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that specific reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.