If a girl recently winked at you then you’re probably wondering why she did it.

This post will help you understand why she winked at you and why other girls might wink at you in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl winks at you? It could mean that she likes you especially if she only does it to you, she does it repeatedly, on more than one occasion and if she shows other signs of attraction around you. She might also do it because she is saying hello, to see if you’re ok, because she does it naturally, or to let you in on something.

Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might wink at you it is important to consider the context of how she winked at you and the body language that she showed.

By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why a girl would wink at you.

Reasons why a girl will wink at you

Each of the different reasons why a girl will wink at you would likely come with a number of clues in the context of how she did it and the body language that she showed.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will wink at you and the signs that you can expect to see with them.

She is attracted to you

If she winked at you after staring at you or she changed her body language in a positive way when she noticed you then it would be likely that he was showing that she was attracted to you.

This would be more likely to be the reason if she did it in a social setting such as at a party.

If she did wink at you because she was attracted to you then it would be likely that she would have shown other signs of being attracted to you in his body language which could include things such as:

  • Having more dilated pupils when she is with you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Pointing her feet in your direction
  • Playing with her hair with her palms showing
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Standing closer to you when talking to you than she does with her other friends
  • Asking you the most questions when in a group together
  • Staring at you then smiling or quickly looking away when you notice
  • Getting anxious when you are around other girls your age
  • Watching you when you’re with other girls your age
  • Sticking around when you’re with other girls your age
  • Touching your feet with hers
  • Adjusting her hair or clothing when she notices you
  • Sitting more upright when she notices you
  • Uncrossing her arms when she notices you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you’re also laughing
  • Touching you a lot
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Talking at a different pitch to what she normally does

It’s important to note that a single body language sign can have multiple different meanings. This means that if she just shows one sign of attraction then it wouldn’t be very reliable. Whereas, if she shows multiple signs of attraction then it would be much more likely that she is actually attracted to you.

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She wants you to say hi to her

If she winked at you after you noticed her staring at you and you haven’t spoken to her before then it would be likely that she was showing attraction to you and that she wanted you to approach her.

Again, this would be more likely to have been the reason if she did it in a social setting such as a party, bar or nightclub.

It would also be likely that she would have shown multiple other signs of being attracted to you in her behavior and body language.

She was saying hello

The reason that she winked at you could simply be that she was saying hello to you.

This would be more likely to be the reason if you know her and she also winks at her other friends when saying hello to them as well. It would also be more likely if you know her and she winked at you when she was not physically able to come over and say hello. In that case, she likely winked because she was letting you know that she saw you.

If she did wink at you as a way of saying hello as a friend then it would be less likely that she would show multiple signs of attraction as mentioned above at the same time. It would also be likely that she would show similar body language around you as she shows around her other friends.

To say “I got you”

Sometimes a person will wink at another person as a sly way of letting them know that they one-upped that person and got away with it.

If she winked at you shortly after she did something sneaky to you and she got away with it then it could be the case that she winked at you as a way of saying that she got you.

To say “I got away with it”

It could also be the case that she winked at you to let you know that she got away with doing something sneaky.

If that is the case then it would be likely that she would have winked at you shortly after doing something that she knew that you knew about.

To say “I have you covered”

If she knows about a secret that you have and she winked when she was talking to someone about something related to it then she might have done it to let you know that she wouldn’t say about your secret.

This would be more likely to be the case if you know the girl well and you have told her things that are personal to you in the past.

To tell you about something mischievous

The reason that she winked at you could be that she was letting you know that she was doing something mischievous.

If that is why she winked at you then it would be likely that she would have shown a number of body language signs of being mischievous such as:

  • Rubbing the arms, face, neck or legs
  • Scratching the neck
  • Coughing
  • Touching her mouth
  • Speaking at a different pitch
  • Fidgeting
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Dry mouth

It’s important to note that these body language signs won’t let you know straight up that she is being mischievous instead it suggests that she is feeling anxious about something that could include being mischievous. However, if she also winked at you then it would be much more likely to be the reason.

To make a joke less personal

If she winked at you when telling a joke related to you then she might have done it to make the joke feel less personal.

In this case, she would likely have also been showing positive body language towards you and she likely wouldn’t have said it with a sinister tone.

To say “are you ok?”

The reason that she winked at you could be that she was trying to see if you were ok.

This would be more likely if you know her, you arrived at the location with her and if you were in an uncertain or uncomfortable situation.

To let you in on a lie

The reason that she winked at you could be that she was lying about something and she was letting you know about it.

This would be more likely to be the reason if she did it while she was talking and you were both around other people together. It would also be likely that she would have shown signs of being deceitful in her body language like those mentioned above in the section about being mischievous.

She naturally winks at people

It could be the case that she has a habit of winking at people when looking at them.

If that is why she winked at you then it would be likely that she would also have winked at other people and that she would have shown the same body language around them as she showed around you.

Consider the scenario that she winked at you in

The situation in which she winked at you will have a large impact on the possible reasons that she did it.

If she winked at you right after you caught her staring at you then it would be much more likely that she did it because she was showing attraction for you. If she also showed other signs of attraction in her body language then it would be likely that she actually wanted to speak to you as well especially if it was in a social setting.

Whereas, if she did it right after she said something then it would be more likely that she did it due to what she said it could be that she was making a joke less personal or that she was lying about something and she was letting you know.

If she winked at you right after she did something then it might have been that she was showing attraction if it was something physical but it could also be that she was being mischievous or that she was doing it out of spite to let you know that she got you.

Consider the location that she winked at you in

It would also be useful to consider where she did it.

If she winked at you when you were both at a party then it would be more likely that she was showing that she was attracted to you. It would also be likely that she would have been showing a number of clues in her body language. She might also have done it to see if you were ok if you know her.

Whereas, if she did it in a business setting then she might have done it to let you know that she wouldn’t say something or that something was happening that was not being mentioned.

Consider how well you know her

Your relationship with her would also likely have an impact on the possible reasons that she would have done it.

If you don’t know her then it would be more likely that she naturally does it or that she was showing attraction. If she was showing multiple signs of attraction then it would be likely that she was hoping to talk to you.

Whereas, if you do know her then it would be possible that she did it for any of the reasons mentioned above. It would be necessary to consider the body language that she was showing and the context in which she did it to get a better idea of why she did it.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she winked at you and the way that she feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she noticeably changes her body language and behavior when she notices you then it would be likely that she has good or bad feelings towards you depending on how she changes it.

If she reacts to seeing you by:

  • Sitting upright
  • Showing her palms
  • Playing with her hair
  • Flicking her hair
  • Uncrossing her arms
  • Raising her eyebrows
  • Smiling
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Having more dilated pupils

Then it would be likely that she has positive feelings about you and that she winked at you because of being attracted to you.

Consider multiple body language signs

When considering what her body language looks like it is important to consider clusters of body language at a time.

This means that you should look for multiple signs of the same thing in her body language at the same time.

This is because she might show a single body language sign for a number of different reasons making it difficult to accurately tell why she is showing it.

Whereas, if she shows a number of body language signs at the same time that all mean the same thing then it would be more likely that she is showing them for that specific reason.

Think about how she interacts with other people

When trying to understand the way that she feels about you it would be useful to compare the way that she interacts with you with the way that she interacts with other people.

If she also winks at her other friends and she shows the same body language and behavior around them as she shows around you then it would be more likely that she winked at you because she was being friendly.

Whereas, if she only winked at you and she changes her behavior and body language when she is around you then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you assuming that she shows signs of attraction around you.

Related

Is a girl interested when she winks at you? If she winked at you when you caught her looking at you then it would be likely that she is interested in you especially if she shows positive body language towards you.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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