If a girl recently told you that she wants to take it slow with you then you’re probably wondering why she said it.

This post will help you understand why she said it and why other girls might say it in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl says that she wants to take it slow? It would likely be a sign that he is not interested in you or that she currently has other options. It could also be that he doesn’t want a relationship right now, she is annoyed with you or she rushed into things in the past.

Since there are a number of reasons why a girl will tell you that she wants to take it slow it is important to consider the context of how she says it and the body language that she shows around you.

By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why she would say that she wants to take it slow and the way that she feels about you.

Reasons why a girl will tell you that she wants to take it slow

Each of the different reasons why a girl will tell you that she wants to take it slow will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she says it and the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will tell you that she wants to take it slow with you and the signs that you can expect to see with them.

She isn’t that into you

If she told you that she wants to take it slow after you tried to rush into things then it could be the case that she isn’t very attracted to you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that she would have been showing signs of anxiousness around you such as:

  • Showing false smiles where she smiles at the mouth but she doesn’t crease beside the eyes
  • Pointing her feet away from you when she is with you
  • Glancing away from you often
  • Fidgeting a lot when she is around you
  • Finding excuses to not do things
  • Standing further away from you compared to how far she stands from her friends
  • Not asking you many questions
  • Giving you short answers

It could be the case that she was attracted to you when she first met you but she has lost interest over time. If that is the case then it would be likely that she would have initially shown a lot of interest in you at first but that it would have gradually reduced since then.

She has other options

The reason that she wants to take it slow with you could be that she is also seeing other guys and she doesn’t want to commit yet because of it.

If that is the case then you might see her with other guys often and she might decline hanging out with you at certain times because she is actually seeing them.

If you do see her when she is with another guy that she is seeing then it would be likely that she would get anxious when you’re around her and that she wouldn’t show a lot of interest in you when she is around him.

She doesn’t want a relationship right now

It could be the case that she is attracted to you but she doesn’t want a relationship right now.

It might be because she is planning on moving away soon, she wants to focus on her work or studies or that she simply prefers being single.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show numerous signs of it in her body language by doing things such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Basing her plans around yours
  • Having dilated pupils when she sees you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing close to you when talking to you
  • Showing you her vulnerable areas such as the neck or palms
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Playing with her hair
  • Sitting more upright when she sees you
  • Uncrossing her arms when she sees you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Getting anxious when you’re with other girls

She’s annoyed with you

The reason that she wants to take things slow could be that she is annoyed with you.

If she is then it would be likely that something would have recently happened that would make her be annoyed with you. It could be that you had an argument, you did something that would annoy her or that she thinks that you did.

If she is annoyed with you then it would be likely that she would show a number of signs of being annoyed with you in her body language such as:

  • Squinting when looking at you
  • Crossing her arms when she sees you
  • Avoiding talking to you
  • Tensing her lips when you’re talking
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Tensing her jaw when she sees you
  • Distancing herself from you
  • Giving you short answers

She rushed into things in the past

The reason that she wants to take things slow could be that she rushed into things in the past and it didn’t go well for her.

If that is the case then she might have told you about previous relationships that didn’t work out. Alternatively, she might show you positive signs but she might get slightly anxious when you bring up taking things further.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she wants to take things slowly and the way that she feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Raising her eyebrows
  • Smiling
  • Sitting upright
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Having more dilated pupils
  • Uncrossing her arms
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you

Then it would be a positive sign and less likely that she wants to take things slow because she is not into you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Distancing herself from you
  • Crossing her arms
  • Squinting
  • Tensing her jaw
  • Looking away
  • Tightening her lips
  • Pointing her feet away from you

Then it would be a negative sign and more likely that she said that she wants to take things slow because she is annoyed with you or because she is not into you.

Consider the type of body language that she shows you

When trying to understand why she wants to take things slow with you it is important to think about the type of body language that she shows around you in general.

If she tends to show distancing behaviors around you such as avoiding talking to you, pointing her feet away from you and avoiding hanging out with you then it would be much more likely that she is not attracted to you.

Whereas, if she does show numerous signs of attraction when she is around you then it would be more likely that she either doesn’t want a relationship right now or she is nervous to get into one due to one that didn’t go well in the past.

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Consider how often she wants to see you

When trying to understand why she wants to take things slow it would also be useful to think about how often she wants to see you.

If she is regularly organizing hanging out with you and you’re not the one that is always having to put in all of the effort in order to hang out then it would be more likely that she is interested in you but she isn’t looking for a relationship right now.

Whereas, if she doesn’t ask to hang out with you much and you’re the one that always has to organize it then it would be more likely that she wants to take things slow because she isn’t very attracted to you.

Consider multiple aspects of her body language

When considering what her body language is suggesting it is important to look for clusters of body language that all suggest the same thing.

This means that you should look for multiple signs in her body language at the same time that can all have the same meaning.

This is because she might show a single body language sign for a number of different reasons making it hard to accurately understand why she is showing it.

Whereas, if she shows multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be much more likely that she is showing them for that specific reason.

Related

Is she taking it slow or is she not interested? It could be that she is not interested and if she isn’t it would be likely that she would show distancing behaviors when she is around you such as avoiding looking at you, pointing her feet away from you and avoiding talking to you. If she shows positive body language and numerous signs of attraction then she might just want to take it slow despite being interested in you.

Why does she want to take it slow and see what happens? It could be that she is seeing other guys and that she doesn’t want to commit to anything yet. It could also be that she is not interested in you anymore or that she doesn’t want to rush into a relationship without knowing you better.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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