If a girl recently told you that she wants to focus on herself then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you why she might have said that she wants to focus on herself and why other girls might say it in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl wants to focus on herself? It would likely mean that she is not interested in you. It could also be the case that she is not looking for a boyfriend right now, she was annoyed with you at the time and it could also be a sign that she likes someone else.

Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might say that she wants to focus on herself it is important to consider the body language that she shows around you and the context of how she said it.

Why a girl will say that she wants to focus on herself

Each of the different reasons why a girl will say that she wants to focus on herself will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she says it and in the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will say that she wants to focus on herself, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is not interested in you

The reason that she said that she wants to focus on herself is likely to be that she is not interested in you.

This would be more likely if she said it when you asked her out. However, If she said it more generally when you were with other people and you didn’t ask her out then it might be the case that she meant it for someone else or she that she didn’t want to show that she wanted a boyfriend.

If she did say it because she isn’t interested in you then it would be likely that she would show signs of not being interested in you, in her body language, when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Smiling at you only with the mouth and not the eyes
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Avoiding making eye contact with you
  • Crossing her arms when she is around you
  • Having tight lips when talking to you
  • Distancing herself from you
  • Avoiding talking to you and giving you short answers
  • Making excuses not to hang out with you

She is not looking for a boyfriend right now

The reason that she said that she wants to focus on herself could be that she isn’t looking for a boyfriend right now. This could be because she is planning on going to university soon, she wants more time to focus on her studies or she might be planning on moving away.

If this is the case then it would be likely that she would also say it to other guys as well and that she would show similar body language around them as she does with you.

She was annoyed with you

It could have been the case that she was annoyed with you at the time and she said it because she wanted you to go away.

This would be more likely if she said it when arguing with you or after you had done something that could have annoyed her.

If she was annoyed with you then it would be likely that she would have shown it in her body language by doing things such as:

  • Squinting when looking at you
  • Crossing her arms when with you
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Tensing her jaw when looking at you
  • Having tight lips when you were talking
  • Giving you short answers
  • Talking to you with a harsher tone than usual

If she was annoyed with you then it could be the case that she does actually like you. If she does like you then it would be likely that she would normally show signs of attraction, in her body language, when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Brushing her hair to the side, so that you can see her neck, when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Giggling a lot at the things that you say
  • Pointing her feet at you when she is in the same room as you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you

There are more signs of attraction that she could show that get mentioned in this online body language course. It also shows you the body language that you should be showing yourself in order to get a good response from women. You can check it out here.

She likes someone else

The reason that she said that she wants to focus on herself could be that she is actually attracted to someone else.

If that is the case then it would be more likely that she would show signs of not being interested in you when she is around you. She would also likely show signs of attraction when she is around the guy that she is interested in.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand the way that she feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on the way that she does it.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Adjusting the way that she looks
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Raising her eyebrows and smiling
  • Positioning herself to be closer to you

Then it would be more likely that she does like you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Crossing her arms
  • Squinting
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Distancing herself from you

Then it would be more likely that she is not interested in you.

Think about how she interacts with other people

It would also be helpful to consider the way that she interacts with other people.

If she also says that she wants to focus on herself to other people and she shows the same body language around them as with you then it would make it more likely that she just doesn’t want a boyfriend.

Whereas, if she doesn’t say it to other people and her body language is more positive around other people than it is with you then it would be more likely that she is not interested in you.

Look for a number of clues in her body language

When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider a number of signs at a time.

Body language signs will usually have multiple different meanings making them unreliable on their own.

Whereas, a cluster of body language signs that all suggest the same thing would be more likely to be there for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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