If a girl never texts you first then you might be wondering why and what it means about the way that she feels about you.

This post will help you understand why she never texts you first and why other girls might do the same in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl never texts you first? If she does respond to your texts and she shows positive body language around you then it would likely be the case that she wants you to be the one that leads the conversation. It could also be that she isn’t sure if you like her, she isn’t interested in you, she’s busy or that she’s annoyed with you.

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Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might not text you first it would be helpful to consider the context of how she does text you and the body language that she shows around you.

Why a girl will never text you first

Each of the different reasons why a girl will never text you first will likely come with a number of clues in her body language and in what she does text you.

Below, I’ll mention a number of reasons why she might not text you first, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She does like you

it could be the case that she is attracted to you even though she doesn’t text you first.

The reason that she might not text you first despite being attracted to you could be that she wants you to be the one to text first and she might not be sure about what to text you.

This would be more likely if she responds to the texts that you send her, if she shows positive body language signs around you in person, if she agrees to hang out with you and if she texts you more sexual things in nature.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show it in her body language when she is with you in person in ways such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you, when talking to you, than she does with other people
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Giggling a lot at the things that you say
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Tilting her head while talking to you
  • Talking with a higher-pitched voice
  • Glancing at you a lot and smiling or quickly looking away when you notice

She isn’t sure whether or not you like her

The reason that she never texts you first might be that she isn’t sure whether or not you like her.

This would be more likely if you only text her things related to work or school and not things that show any interest in her.

If that is the case, and she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show attraction to you when she is around you in person.

She isn’t into you

The reason that she doesn’t text you first might be that she isn’t interested in you.

This would be more likely if she tends to take a long time to respond to your texts, she doesn’t agree to hang out, she sends you short answers and if she does not show signs of attraction when she is around you in person.

She might also show other signs of not being interested in you when she is around you in person by doing things such as:

  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Crossing her arms when she sees you
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Giving short answers
  • Distancing herself from you
  • Only smiling at the mouth

She’s busy

It could be the case that she doesn’t tend to text you first because she is often busy and she doesn’t have the time to text you.

This would be more likely if she tends to be more responsive at certain times. If she is usually busy then it could still be the case that she is attracted to you. This would be more likely if she agrees to hang out with you over text and if she shows attraction when she is around you in person.

She’s annoyed with you

The reason that she might not be texting you first could be that she is annoyed with you.

This would be more likely if she did often text you first in the past but she stopped after you had a falling out of some kind.

If she is annoyed with you then she might show it when she is around you in person by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Furrowing her eyebrows when she sees you
  • Tensing her jaw when she sees you
  • Crossing her arms when she sees you
  • Avoiding talking to you
  • Having tight lips when you’re talking

Consider the type of things that she does text

It would be helpful to consider the type of things that she does text you when trying to understand why she never texts you first.

If she tends to text you things related to hanging out with you, things that are more sexual in nature and if she tends to text you in a way that furthers the conversation then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you.

Whereas, if she tends to take a long time to reply, gives you short responses and she doesn’t agree to hang out with you then it would be more likely that she is not interested in you.

Think about how she reacts to seeing you

It would be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you when trying to understand why she doesn’t text you first.

If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language and behavior then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Holding eye contact
  • Raising her eyebrows and smiling
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you

Then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you despite not texting you first.

Whereas, if she reacts by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Crossing her arms
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Tightening her lips
  • Distancing herself from you

Then it would be more likely that she never texts you first due to not being interested in you or being annoyed with you.

Consider how she interacts with other people

It would also be helpful to consider what her normal body language and behavior is like.

If she tends not to text other people first then it would be more likely that she does it with you naturally and not because she doesn’t like you. It could also be the case that she is attracted to you if she shows signs of attraction around you in person that she doesn’t with other people.

Whereas, if she only seems to never text you first and she shows more negative body language when she is around you then it would be more likely that she isn’t interested in you.

Think about multiple aspects of her body language

When considering what her body language is showing, when she’s with you, it would be helpful to look for multiple signs of the same thing.

This is because a single body language sign will often have multiple different meanings. This can make it challenging to accurately understand the meaning of single body language signs.

Whereas, if she was to show multiple body language signs of the same thing then it would be more likely that she is showing them for that specific reason.

Related

What does it mean when a girl never texts you first but always responds? It could be that she wants you to be the one to text first and she is attracted to you. This would be more likely if she agrees to hang out with you and she shows signs of attraction in person. It could also be that she tends to be busy or that she doesn’t text people a lot naturally.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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