If a girl recently initiated a conversation with you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons that she might have started a conversation with you and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl initiates a conversation with you? It could be that she likes you especially if she only did it with you and she showed other signs of attraction. She might also have been being friendly, wanted something from you or she might have thought that you were sad at the time.

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There are actually a number of different things for you to consider when trying to figure out why she started a conversation with you and there are a number of reasons why she might have done it.

Why a girl will initiate a conversation with you

Each of the different reasons why a girl will start a conversation with you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she did it and the body language that she showed.

Below, I will show you a number of reasons why a girl will initiate a conversation with you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

One reason that she might have done it is that she was attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she only started a conversation with you and if she also talked to you about things such as whether or not you have a girlfriend and what type of girls you like. However, if she talked to you about things in general then it could still be the case that she was showing attraction to you.

If she was showing attraction to you then it would be likely that she would show other signs of being attracted to you, in her body language, when around you.

These signs could include:

  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Brushing her hair to the side when talking to you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils dilate when looking at a person that they are attracted to)
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say
  • Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Watching you when you are around other girls

She is just being friendly

It could be the case that she did it because she was just being friendly.

This would be more likely if she also tends to have conversations with other people in the same way and if she shows the same body language around other people as she did with you.

If she does tend to start conversations with other people like she did with you then it could still be the case that she did it with you because she was attracted to you. This would be more likely if she showed signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t around other people.

She wants something from you

It could be the case that she wanted something from you.

This would be more likely if she knew that you could help her with something before she started talking to you and if she asked you to do something for her when she was talking to you. It would also be more likely if she stopped talking to you after she got what she needed or if she only seems to start conversations with you when she needs things from you.

Alternatively, it could be that she just wanted your opinion on something.

She is bored

She might have started a conversation with you just because she was bored. This would be more likely if she mentioned being bored or if she did it when in a situation that might have caused her to be bored such as when waiting for something.

She is sad

Sometimes, people will start conversations with other people when they are feeling sad in order to make themselves feel better and this could be why she did it with you.

This would be more likely if she was showing signs of being sad such as:

  • Drooping the shoulders
  • Speaking with a monotone voice
  • Looking down a lot
  • Having watery eyes
  • Sniffing a lot

It would also be more likely if she was talking to you about something that might have made her feel sad at the time.

She feels sorry for you

Alternatively, it could be the case that she initiated a conversation with you because she thought that you were feeling sad.

This would be more likely if you tend to see her when you are not with other people, you were showing signs of being sad around her or if she mentioned that you seemed sad when she was talking to you.

Consider what she talks to you about

When trying to understand why she initiated a conversation with you it would help to consider what she talked about with you.

If she was asking you things such as if you have a girlfriend or where she is then it would make it a lot more likely that she was showing attraction to you.

If she was talking about random things then it would make it more likely that she was just being friendly. But, she might still have done it for a different reason so it would help to consider the body language that she was showing.

Consider how she interacts with other people

It would also help to compare how she interacts with other people with how she interacts with you.

If she also tends to initiate conversations with other people and she shows the same body language around them as she did with you then it would make it more likely that she was doing it to be friendly.

If she doesn’t seem to initiate conversations with other people much and she shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that she was showing attraction to you. That is assuming that she changes her body language in a way that shows attraction.

Consider how she reacts when she sees you

It would also help to consider how she reacts when she sees you. If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language then it would make it more likely that she did it due to being attracted to you.

This means that if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Seeking eye contact with you
  • Adjusting her posture

Then it would make it more likely that she did it due to being attracted to you.

Look for a number of signs

When considering what her body language could have been showing it would help to consider a number of different signs at the same time.

This is because a single body language sign will usually have many different possible meanings making them unreliable on their own.

Whereas, it would be more likely that she would show multiple body language signs of the same thing for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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