If a girl recently held your hand then you might be wondering why she did it and what it could mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will help you figure out why she held your hand and why other girls might also do it in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl holds your hand? If she also showed positive body language then it would likely mean that she likes you. However, she might have also been that she was trying to reassure you, that she was feeling unsure about the situation you were both in or she might have been being dominating.

Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might hold your hand it is important to consider the situation that you were in when she did it and the body language that she showed.

Why a girl will hold your hand

Each of the different reasons why a girl will hold your hand will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will hold your hand and the signs that you can expect to see with them.

She’s attracted to you

The reason that she held your hand could be that she was showing she’s attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she did it by interlocking her fingers, if she did it less firmly and if she did it in a situation where she was not feeling worried.

However, if she held your hand more firmly or she didn’t interlock the fingers it could still be the case that she was showing attraction to you.

If she was showing attraction to you then it would be likely that she would have shown other body language signs of attraction.

These signs could have included things such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having more dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Pointing her feet at you when you’re around her (people point their feet in the direction that they are most interested)
  • Touching you more than she touches other people
  • Standing closer to you when talking to you than she does with other people
  • Adjusting her appearance when she notices you
  • Brushing her hair to one side when she notices you or when she is with you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Touching your feet with her feet
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Asking you the most questions when you are with other people
  • Watching you when you’re with other girls
  • Staring at you and smiling or looking away when you notice
  • Sitting or standing more upright when she notices you

She was feeling unsure

The reason that she held your hand could be that she was feeling worried about the situation that you were both in.

If that was the case then it would be likely that she would have held your hand when you were both in an uncertain situation such as when walking through a crowd or a street at night.

She might also have held your hand because she was feeling sad at the time and she wanted reassurance. If she was then it would be likely that she would have shown signs of being sad such as:

  • Watery eyes
  • A flat speech tone
  • Slouching
  • Being more quiet than usual
  • Trembling lip
  • Inhaling quickly through the nose
  • Taking deep breaths

She wanted to reassure you

The reason that she held your hand could be that she was trying to make you feel better.

If that was the case then it would be more likely that she would have done it while you were talking to her about something that made you feel sad or while you were showing signs of being sad.

It would also be the case that she wouldn’t hold your hand at other times as well. If she does then it would be more likely that she does it due to attraction.

She was being dominating

She might have held your hand as a power-play or because she was being dominating.

If that was the case then it would be more likely that she would have held it more firmly, when trying to make you do something and in front of other people.

If she did do it as a power-play or because of being dominating then it would be likely that she would show signs of it around you and other people.

These signs could include:

  • Telling people to do things
  • Squinting when looking at people
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with people
  • Having tight lips when people are talking
  • Standing in people’s personal space
  • Interrupting people
  • Touching people a lot

Think about when and where she held your hand

The timing and location of when she held your hand would likely be a useful thing to consider.

If she held your hand when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that she was doing it to reassure you or herself or because she was showing attraction to you. It would help to consider the body language that she was showing when she did it. If she showed signs of attraction then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction.

If she held your hand when you were both around other people then it would be more likely that she was either being dominating, feeling worried or because she was showing attraction to you. It would help to consider the situation that you were in, the way that she held your hand and the body language that she showed.

Think about the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she held your hand and the way that she feels about you it would be helpful to think about how she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by changing her body language noticeably then it would be a sign that she has particularly good feelings about you if she changes it in a positive way.

This means that if you notice that she tends to react to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Sitting or standing more upright
  • Having more dilated pupils
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Raising her eyebrows and smiling
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Adjusting her appearance

Then it would be more likely that she held your hand because she was showing attraction to you.

Consider how she interacts with other people

Comparing the way that she interacts with other people with the way that she interacts with you would also help in understanding why she held your hand.

If she also tends to touch her other friend’s a lot and she shows the same body language around them then it would be less likely that she was doing it due to attraction.

Whereas, if she only seems to do it with you and she shows different body language around you compared to around her friends then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction. That is provided she changes it in a way that suggests attraction.

Consider multiple aspects of her body language

When trying to understand why she held your hand it would be helpful to consider numerous aspects of the body language that she was showing.

The reason being that she could have shown a single body language sign for a variety of different reasons. This can make it difficult to accurately understand why she might have been showing a single body language sign.

Whereas, if she was showing a cluster of body language signs and they all suggested the same thing, such as attraction, then it would be more likely that she really was attracted to you.

Think about how often she holds your hand

How often she holds your hand would be a useful thing to consider.

If she tends to hold your hand a lot then it would be more likely that she is either showing attraction to you or she considers you a friend. It would help to consider if she shows signs of attraction around you and if she also does it with her other friends.

If she only did it once then she could have done it for any of the reasons mentioned above. It would be necessary to consider when and where she did it, the body language she showed, if she does it with other people and how she reacts to seeing you.

Related

What does it mean when a girl holds your hand with interlocked fingers? It would be more likely that she was showing attraction to you. However, she might also have done it if she was feeling uncertain about the situation. So, it would help to consider the situation that she held it in and the body language she showed.

What does it mean when a girl holds your hand tight? It would be more likely that she did it because she was either feeling unsure about the situation or she was being dominating. However, she could also have been showing attraction. It would help to consider the situation that you were in and the body language that she showed.

Does holding hands mean I like you from a girl? It likely does mean that she likes you and it would help to consider the way that she held it, when and where she held it and the body language that she shows around you.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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