If a girl doesn’t look at you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about her feelings towards you.

In this post, I will help you understand why she doesn’t look at you and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl doesn’t look at you? If she also doesn’t look at other people then it would be likely that she is shy or she has social anxiety. If she doesn’t look at you specifically it could be that she is attracted to you, she is annoyed with you or she doesn’t like you depending on the body language that she shows.

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Since there are a number of reasons why she might avoid looking at you it is important to consider the context of how she avoids looking at you and the body language that she shows.

In doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why she doesn’t look at you and the way that she feels about you.

What it means when a girl doesn’t look at you

Each of the different reasons that she doesn’t look at you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons that a girl might avoid looking at you and the signs to look for with them.

She has some social anxiety or shyness

The reason that she doesn’t look at you could be that she has some social anxiety or shyness.

If she does then it would be likely that she would also not look at other people as well. She would also likely struggle to hold eye contact with you and with other people. She would also likely show the same body language around you as she shows around other people.

If she does avoid looking at you due to social anxiety or shyness then it would be likely that she would show other signs of it in her body language when she is around you and other people.

These signs could include:

  • Rubbing the arms, face, neck or legs
  • Blinking more frequently
  • Eye blocking behaviors such as putting things in their way
  • Fidgeting
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Being quiet around you and other people
  • Coughing when around lots of people

If she doesn’t look at you and other people due to shyness then it might be the case that she would look at you more when she isn’t around lots of people or if you were to initiate a discussion with her.

She is attracted to you

It might actually be the case that she doesn’t look at you because she is attracted to you.

If that is the case then it would be more likely that it would only be you that she would avoid looking at. The reason that she might avoid looking at you while being attracted to you is that it could be that it causes her to get nervous around you.

If she does avoid looking at you due to being attracted to you but nervous then it would be likely that she would show signs of nervousness around you such as those mentioned above and she would also likely show signs of attraction (mentioned below).

It might also be the case that she doesn’t look at you despite being attracted to you if she has a boyfriend. In that case, it would be less likely that she would show signs of nervousness around you but she might show distancing behaviors around you instead.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of being attracted to you when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Flicking her hair to the side when she sees you or when you’re talking
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Having more dilated pupils when she is around you
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are as well
  • Laughs a lot at the things you say
  • Stroking her hair while she is with you
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Tilting her head while talking to you

She is annoyed with you or she doesn’t like you

The reason that she doesn’t look at you could be that she is annoyed with you or that she doesn’t like you.

If she is annoyed with you then it would be likely that she did look at you more in the past but she stopped doing it suddenly. It would also be likely that she would have stopped looking at you after you had some sort of an argument with each other or after you did something that she might not like.

If she doesn’t like you then there it could be that you said or did something that she didn’t like when you were around her or it might be the case that her friends or family don’t like you for some reason.

If it is the case that she is annoyed with you or she doesn’t like you then it would be likely that she would show it in her body language when she is around you.

She could show it by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you when she does look at you
  • Crossing her arms when she sees you
  • Standing further away from you when she sees you
  • Tightening her lips when you’re talking
  • Tensing her jaw when she sees you
  • Talking to you with a more aggressive tone
  • Giving you short or sarcastic answers
  • Pointing her feet away from you

She is sad

If she normally looks at you but she suddenly stopped then it could be the case that she was feeling sad.

This might have been apparent based on recent events that had happened. For example, she might have recently received bad news about something.

If she was feeling sad then it would be likely that she would also have been showing the same body language around other people and she would likely have not been looking at them either.

If she was sad then she might have shown it in her body language by doing things such as:

  • Slouching
  • Self-hugging
  • Having watery eyes
  • Talking less than usual
  • Talking with a flat speech tone
  • Taking deeper breaths
  • Inhaling quickly through the nose

She is being submissive

People will often avoid making eye contact when they are being submissive. The reason that she avoided eye contact with you could be that she was being submissive.

This would be more likely if you were coming across as being threatening, if you are in a position of relative authority over her or if you were with people that she felt threatened by.

If she was being submissive then it would be likely that she would have shown it in her body language in other ways as well which could have included things such as:

  • Looking down
  • Making the body appear small
  • Self-hugging
  • Laughing at the mouth
  • Pointing the feet away
  • Distancing herself from you

Consider if she only doesn’t look at you

When trying to understand why she doesn’t look at you it would be helpful to consider whether or not she does it with other people as well.

If she doesn’t look at other people either then it would be more likely that she does it due to shyness or social anxiety.

Whereas, if she only avoids looking at you then it would be more likely that she does it due to either being attracted to you, being annoyed with you or she doesn’t like you. It would help to consider whether or not she shows positive body language signs around you to get a better idea of why.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

It would also be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you when trying to understand why she doesn’t look at you.

If she changes her body language in a noticeable way when she sees you then it would be more likely that she specifically has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Raising her eyebrows
  • Flicking her hair to the side
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Having more dilated pupils
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Smiling
  • Uncrossing her arms

Then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you and that she doesn’t look at you due to being nervous.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Crossing her arms
  • Squinting at you
  • Tightening her lips
  • Furrowing her eyebrows
  • Tensing her jaw
  • Pointing her feet away from you

Then it would be more likely that she doesn’t look at you because she is annoyed with you or she doesn’t like you.

Think about when and where she doesn’t look at you

The timing and the location of where she doesn’t look at you could also be a useful thing to consider.

If she looks at you when she is alone with you but she doesn’t do it when she is around other people then it could be the case that certain people make her feel nervous. This would also be likely if she doesn’t look at you when certain people are around or when you’re in a certain location.

If she doesn’t look at regardless of where you are and who you are with then it could be the case that she is doing it for any of the reasons mentioned above.

Look for multiple clues in her body language

When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of her body language at a time.

If she only shows one body language sign of a particular thing then it wouldn’t be so reliable since single body language signs often have multiple different meanings.

Whereas, if she shows a cluster of body language signs that all suggest the same meaning then it would be more likely that she is showing them for that specific reason.

Related

Why doesn’t she look me in the eye anymore? It could be that she is annoyed with you in which case she would likely have stopped looking you in the eye after an argument. She might also have been sad, she might think that you do not like her or she might want to avoid you for some reason.

What does it mean when a girl won’t make eye contact? If she does it to other people as well then she might be shy or have social anxiety. If she only does it to you then she might be attracted to you but nervous or she might be annoyed with you or not like you.

Why does she avoid looking at me? It might be the case that she wants to avoid you because she is annoyed with you or she doesn’t want to see you for some reason. She might also be attracted to you but get nervous around you. If she does it with other people as well then it would be more likely that she is shy or has some social anxiety.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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