If a guy recently sat very close to you, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make each of them more likely.

So, what does it mean when a guy sits really close to you? A guy sitting really close to you will often be a sign that he likes you especially if he only does it with you and if he shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also be being dominant or aggressive, trying to hear you better or he might sit close to people naturally.

There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will sit close to you but there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main reason.

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What does it mean if a guy sits close to you?

Below are a number of possible reasons why a guy will sit close to you and what would make each of them more likely.

He’s attracted to you

The cause could be that he found you attractive.

This would be especially likely to be the case if it is only you that he seems to sit close to, he went out of his way to sit near you, he regularly positions himself to be near you and he seems to change his body language when he notices you.

If he is attracted to you it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in a number of ways by doing things such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Finding excuses to touch you
  • Asking you more questions than other people in the group
  • Keeping his attention on you when there are multiple people present
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Sitting or standing more upright when he notices you
  • Uncrossing his arms and legs when he notices you
  • Getting anxious when you’re with other men
  • Fixing his hair or clothing when he notices you
  • Staring at you then looking away or smiling if you notice

He’s being dominant

The cause might also be that he was displaying dominant behavior.

This is because, when a guy is trying to show his status to the people around him, it will often involve him being in their personal space.

If he was being dominant, it would be likely that he would also have done things such as:

  • Being in other people’s personal space
  • Telling people to do things
  • Touching the people around him a lot
  • Standing or sitting with a posture that makes him look big
  • Talking over people
  • Interrupting people
  • Putting his hands and legs on things that aren’t his
  • Staring at people
  • Squinting when looking at people
  • Having tight lips when other people are talking

He naturally sits close to people

It could be the case that he is from a culture where it is normal for them to be closer to people than you are used to.

If that is why he sat near you, it would be likely that he would be close to other people when he is talking to them. It would also be likely that he would show the same body language signals around you as he does with other people.

Even if he is from one of these cultures it could still be the case that he stood near you for a different reason so you should consider the body language signals that he was showing.

He feels comfortable around you

The cause could also be that he naturally sits close to people that he considers as friends. This would be more likely if he also sits close to his other friends and if he shows similar body language around them as he does around you.

Consider your relationship with him

It would help to consider the type of relationship that you have with him.

If he has been your friend for a while and he has been sitting closer to you than normal lately, it could be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends. In this case, you should expect to see other signs of attraction in his body language that you might not have picked up on yet.

If it was a guy that you hadn’t met before, it could be the case that he naturally sits close to people, that he was showing dominant behavior or that he was attracted to you. In this case, it would be necessary to consider how he interacted with other people, his other body language signals and the location that you were in.

If it was a guy that you know but he isn’t your friend, it could be that he was showing dominant behavior, attraction or that he does it naturally. It would be especially helpful to consider how he interacts with other people.

Consider how he behaves around other people

When trying to understand why a guy might sit really close to you it would be helpful to consider the way that he interacts with other people.

If you notice that he sits or stands close to other people when talking to them and he doesn’t show different body language around you then it would be more likely that he naturally stands and sits close to people.

Whereas, if he sits closer to you and he changes his body language when he notices you, it would be more likely that it was due to attraction and/or dominating behavior.

Consider when and where he did it

The timing and location of when he stood really close to you would also likely be a useful thing to consider.

If he did it after talking to you for a few minutes then it could be that he was trying to hear you better especially if it was a loud environment.

Whereas if he sat close to you straight away, it would make it more likely that he naturally does it, he was attracted to you, he was showing dominant behavior.

Consider how he reacts when he first sees you

The way that he reacts upon seeing you would also be a helpful thing to consider.

If he tends to raise his eyebrows and smile, uncross his arms and legs, point his feet at you, position himself to be nearer to you, show dilated pupils, sit or stand more upright or adjust his hair or clothes when he sees you, it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.

Whereas, if he crosses the arms and legs, looks away, points his feet away from you and distances himself from you then it would be more likely that he is unhappy to see you.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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