If there is a guy that you like that you haven’t spoken to before then you’re probably wondering what signs to look for to see if he wants to approach you.

This post will explain to you the signs to look for to see if he wants to approach you and will help you to figure out if other guys want to approach you in the future.

So, how do you know if a guy wants to approach you?

You can expect to see a number of the signs below from a guy if he wants to approach you.

  1. His pupils become more dilated
  2. He points his feet at you
  3. He raises his eyebrows and smiles when he notices you
  4. He sits or stands with a straighter posture when he sees you
  5. He adjusts his clothing or hair when he sees you
  6. He mirrors your body language
  7. He positions himself so that he is near you
  8. He changes his behavior when he is around you
  9. He becomes anxious when you’re with other men
  10. He shows signs of nervousness when he is near you
  11. He becomes defensive when other men are around
  12. He glances in your direction
  13. He looks to see if you’re laughing when he is
  14. He speaks with a different voice when you are around
  15. He looks at you as you are leaving
  16. He asks your friends about you
  17. He doesn’t show negative body language signals
  18. He stands or sits with his legs apart
  19. He tries to show off
  20. He uncrosses his arms and legs when he sees you
  21. He smiles at you

When trying to figure out whether or not a guy wants to approach you it would be helpful to consider the context of how he behaves around you and the body language that he shows around you.

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Below, I will explain the different body language signals that you should expect to see and a number of other things that you should consider when trying to understand if a guy wants to approach you.

His pupils become more dilated

When a guy is with a woman that he finds attractive it will actually cause his eyes to become more dilated than usual.

This means that if you notice that he tends to have more dilated pupils than is normal when he is around you then it would be a sign that he wants to approach you.

He points his feet at you

The lower body can actually tell you a lot about how a person feels about you.

This is because people learn ways to control the emotions that they are showing on their face but they rarely think about what they are doing with their lower body.

It is the case that people tend to point their feet in the direction that they are most interested in. This means that if you notice that he tends to point his feet in your direction then it would be a sign that he is attracted to you and that he wants to come and talk to you.

If you notice that he points his feet in your direction and he tends to bounce his feet up and down then it would be even more likely that he wants to approach you.

He raises his eyebrows and smiles when he notices you

Gestures that go against gravity tend to be a positive signal.

This means that if, when he first notices you, he does things such as raise his eyebrows, smile or raise his toes then it would suggest that he wants to approach you.

He sits or stands with a straighter posture when he sees you

If he wants to approach you then it would be likely that he also wants to look good when he is around you.

Slouching is not such a good look. With that being the case, it would be likely that he would sit or stand with a straighter posture when he sees you if he likes you.

He adjusts his clothing or hair when he sees you

Another way that he might try to make himself look good around you is by adjusting his shirt, tie, pants or hair when he sees you.

He mirrors your body language

When a guy wants to be accepted by a certain person or a certain group of people he will often subconsciously mirror their body language.

By doing this it will help him to get accepted by the person or group as a member of their group.

If he wants to approach you then it would be likely that he would mirror aspects of your body language.

This means that it is possible that he could show seemingly negative body language towards you but actually still want to come and speak to you if you are also showing those same negative body language signals.

There are many ways that he might mirror you if he wants to approach you but some examples could be:

  • Standing or sitting with the same stance as you
  • Mirroring your facial gestures
  • Mirroring your smile
  • Mirroring your hand gestures
  • Talking at a similar pitch as you

He positions himself so that he is near you

If he wants to approach you then it would be likely that he would position himself to be near you.

The reason that he would do that is that he wants to make it easier to approach you, because he is attracted to you and also because he wants to see if you would be responsive to him approaching you.

He changes his behavior when he is around you

If he likes you then it would be likely that your presence would make his personality become more pronounced.

This means that if he has a quiet personality then he would become quieter and if he has an outgoing personality he would become more outgoing.

He becomes anxious when you’re with other men

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being anxious when you’re with other men because he doesn’t want you to like them more than him.

It would also be likely that he would stick around and watch you when you are with other men to see how you react to them.

He shows signs of nervousness when he is near you

If he wants to approach you but he hasn’t yet then it would be likely that it is because he is nervous about how you’ll react.

With that being the case, it would be likely that he would show signs of nervousness in his body language when around you.

These signs could include:

  • Rubbing his arms, legs, face or neck a lot
  • Touching the front of his neck
  • Scratching the back of his neck
  • Fidgeting
  • Tapping his fingers and feet up and down
  • Struggling to maintain eye contact with people
  • Wringing the hands
  • Having a dry mouth
  • Coughing
  • Quivering around the eyes and mouth

He becomes defensive when other men are around

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he doesn’t want to be made to look back by other men when you are around.

This means that if you notice that he tends to become defensive when you’re near him and there are other men around then it would be a sign that he likes you.

He glances in your direction

If he likes you then it would be likely that he would often look in your direction.

If you catch him looking at you a lot and he looks away quickly or he smiles when you catch him then it would be more likely that he wants to come and speak to you.

He looks to see if you’re laughing when he is

If he likes you then it would be likely that he would want you to think that he likes the same things that you do.

This means that if you notice that he tends to look at you when he is laughing then he is probably checking to see if you also find it funny and it would be a sign that he wants to talk to you.

He speaks with a different voice when you are around

It has been shown that men will usually talk with a more deep voice when they are talking to a woman that they are attracted to and that they will occasionally go high pitched as well.

This could be because speaking with a deeper voice shows that he has testosterone while talking at a higher pitch signals that he isn’t a threat.

If you notice that he tends to speak with a deeper voice when he is around you and he occasionally speaks at a higher pitch then it would be a sign that he is attracted to you.

He looks at you as you are leaving

If he wants to come and speak to you then it would be likely that he would watch you when you are about to leave or when you are leaving.

This would likely be because it means that he won’t have a chance to speak to you and because he is attracted to you.

However, it could also be a sign that he is mad at you in which case it would be likely that he would have been showing negative body language signals towards you. But, if you haven’t spoken to him before then it would be unlikely.

He asks your friends about you

If he is attracted to you then he might ask your friends about you. If your friends have told you that he asked them about you then it would be a sign that he likes you.

He doesn’t show negative body language signals

If he wants to speak to you then it would be likely that he would want to appear approachable to you.

This means that he would be less likely to show negative body language signals such as squinting, crossing the arms and legs, tensing the jaw, clenching the fists, tightening the lips, tightening the eyebrows or slouching.

He stands or sits with his legs apart

When men are around a woman that they find attractive they will often subconsciously stand in a way that highlights their crotch area.

This means that if you notice that he tends to stand or sit with his feet apart when he is near you then it would be a sign that he is attracted to you.

He tries to show off

If he likes you then it might be the case that he would try to impress you.

If you notice that he tends to show off when he notices you then it would be a sign that he likes you.

He uncrosses his arms and legs when he sees you

If he wants to speak to you then it would be likely that he would uncross his arms and legs when he first notices you because it is not an open and inviting position to be in.

He smiles at you

If he wants to approach you then it would be likely that he would want to see how responsive you would be to him.

One way that he might try to find out is by smiling at you and looking to see if you smile back.

Consider how he reacts when he first sees you

The way that he reacts when he initially sees you will be a moment where you’ll be able to tell a lot about the way that he feels about you.

If when he first notices you he uncrosses his arms and legs, sits/stands more upright, points his feet at you, raises his eyebrows and smiles, holds eye contact with you for a little longer than usual, mirrors your body language and his pupils dilate then it would be likely that he likes you.

Consider how he interacts with other people

It would also be helpful to be aware of what his normal body language looks like.

If he tends to show the same body language when he doesn’t know you’re around as he does when he does know you’re around then it would be less likely that he wants to approach you.

Whereas, if his body language is different when you are around then, assuming that he shows body language signals of attraction, it would be likely that he wants to talk to you.

Look for multiple body language signals

When trying to observe his body language and what it might be suggesting it is important to look at multiple different aspects of his body language.

The reason for that is that he might be showing one particular body language signal for a number of different reasons.

Whereas, if he shows multiple different signs of attraction in his body language then it would be much more likely that he really is attracted to you and that he wants to come and talk to you.

Related

How to tell if a guy thinks about you? If a guy thinks about you then it would be likely that he would show that he is attracted to you in his body language. It would be particularly likely that he would tend to glance in your direction and that he would avoid showing negative body language signals when you’re around. It would also be likely that he would ask you lots of questions and keep his focus on you when there are lots of people around.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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